The Lines Are Just Perfect..

Perfect version of a statement about marriage that a friend told me once, from the film 'Frida' that I watched last night, the first time I saw the film was back in college.

"Tina Modotti: I don't believe in marriage. [crowd laughs] No, I really don't. Let me be clear about that. I think at worst it's a hostile political act, a way for small-minded men to keep women in the house and out of the way, wrapped up in the guise of tradition and conservative religious nonsense. At best, it's a happy delusion - these two people who truly love each other and have no idea how truly miserable they're about to make each other. But, but, when two people know that, and they decide with eyes wide open to face each other and get married anyway, then I don't think it's conservative or delusional. I think it's radical and courageous and very romantic. To Diego and Frida."

Marriage 101

Just this morning, a dear friend of mine reflexively asked me "Do you have plans of getting married?”. I was caught off guard, but instinctively, I know the answer to this question. Maybe it’s too early to decide if getting married is one of the options I wish to muse over. Given the present circumstances, I don’t think so.

Frederick Engel’s “The Origin of the Family, Private Property, and the State: in the light of the researches of Lewis H. Morgan” ( which I have read way back in college) shows how families originate (of course!), resulting into a bourgeois concept of a family.

Sample quote: “Bourgeois law dictates the rules for relationships and inheritances. As such, two partners, even when their marriage is not arranged, will always have the preservation of inheritance in mind and as such will never be entirely free to choose their partner. For Engels, a relationship based on property rights and forced monogamy will only lead to the proliferation of immorality and prostitution.”

And so, I defended my principle, that marriage will not lessen any complication (if there is any). Think about gay and lesbian relationships. I do sympathize with them, and the kinds of discrimination that some of them go through give them emotional torture – fascist bigotry!

Though, in my present state of mind, I don’t go for polygamy, group marriage etc. It’s just the thought that when you want to be with someone, the concept of marriage is not important anymore for it only boils down to the concept of economy and bourgeois property. Why not invest more on emotional foundations – love, affection, sharing, values on how to make each other worthy as beings. Some say “The best things in the world cannot be seen by the naked eye.”  - (Helen Keller) – exactly my point.

But just to clarify, I am not against marriage. Of course, once (or twice?) in my life, I daydream of wearing a bridal gown, walking down the aisle with the love of your life and saying I do.

This friend of mine misinterpreted my reply; he said “Don’t frown at tomorrow!” Not having a chance to marry is not a valid reason to frown at tomorrow, I guess. As long as you have found the right person to be with forever..

Peace out O**r! Hahahah.. This guy is gonna marry soon that’s why he asked me that question.