Sometime during college, a friend of mine made me read Zizek's opinion on Love; and today, while browsing, I came across those texts again, here they are:
"For me there is one measure of true love: you can insult the other. Like in that horrible German comedy film from 1943 where Marika Röck treats her fiancé very brutally. This fiancé is a rich, important person, so her father asks her why are you treating him like that. And she gives the right answer. She says: 'But I love him, and since I love him, I can do with him whatever I want.' That's the truth of it. If there is true love, you can say horrible things and anything goes."
Then here's the comment of the blogger who quoted the above texts ~~~
"Possibly Slavoj Žižek is a silly old bachelor like myself."
And now, that friend of mine who showed me those texts remains to be single.
Heres another link about Zizek on Love: https://loganfidler.wordpress.com/
What Zizek said makes sense to me now. Unlike before.
after having thought about it for a few weeks i think i actually disagree with my own blog (the second link you posted). the negation of negation, the movement that turns failure into true success is the ideal structure of true love but is too difficult to achieve. Zizek talks about that same idea quite consistently, especially when it comes to race relations. The true non-racist is the one who can be down right racist with his/her friends but who can also accept racism towards his/herself in return: a public failure of speech turned into true success. so what about Zizek on love makes sense to you now?
ReplyDeleteI think the negation of the negation can be considered as an outcome of true love. Insulting a partner is like bullying your friends, telling them they are bitches or morons, but we don’t mind because we know that we can insult them in the highest level possible and still, we can assure ourselves that we can still have them despite that kind of harassment. I just recalled a lecture from my Sociology Professor that when “algama” is lost (or almost lost) but still couples manage to stay together, that is true love. My realization is that I am now capable of insulting my lover, telling him upfront about his imperfections, and I am not afraid that that will be a cause of separation. Or is it too early to realize that?
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